An alcoholic must change their entire identity and associated behaviors to stop drinking, not just decide to stop.

“An alcoholic right if you decide if an alcoholic decides tomorrow i don't want to be this anymore you have to change everything you can't just okay i want to stop drinking no no your entire identity has been around i go to a bar i hang out with my friends after work they probably drink my family probably drank growing up that's where i learned it from now you've got to change everything you are not going to be able to be you know this new person while still dragging your old behaviors behind you”