when i just started being actively kind and supported to myself i started speaking to myself in a way like hey kristen i know you're hurting this is really hard it's understandable there's a lot of reasons for how things unfolded the way they did um you know i'm here for you i started really just i did it silently but speaking to myself as if i was speaking to a friend and it really was like finding a superpower i didn't even know i had it was almost immediate the impact it had on me