what I make my students do is a nine-part meditation on their own failure catastrophic failure by their own terms which is not necessarily human catastrophic failure but there will be I remember the first time I did this I put the steps in because they didn't know how to do it and the first one is I'm falling behind my colleagues at school um I I graduate but just barely I'm not getting the jobs that my friends are getting and that people thought I was going to get um I'm finding I'm really my career is not what I thought it was going to be and then I get to this one point and I I threw this in just for a little bit of Pathos and and and I said there's one point I say I think my parents feel sorry for me and a student starts crying because that's the nerve man that's the nerve there's always this point in the death meditation so figure out what death means for you where this mortality Paradox it really has teeth and then actually put together the exposure therapy of walking yourself through the the the the experience the emotional EXP experience of this failure and you will be free