Therapeutic feedback should be given with the intention of offering love or connection, not to provide counter-feedback or comparisons.

“please do not give feedback to the feedback right and we're back to the control word right because I've got this thing I'm ready to present and perhaps I've presented it 10 times and I've got it written out or I've at least got bullet points so I feel good about no problem but you start telling me how you felt and what came up for you Peter when I was talking about my dad and what he did I don't know how that's going to feel for me right and so in so many times Almost 100% of the time within the spirit of not giving feedback to feedback is feedback is almost like equates to I'm going to throw some love on you okay”