Activating the attachment system through self-compassion can be frightening for some individuals, leading to negative self-talk or traumatic memories surfacing.

“for some people actually it can be frightening to give themselves compassion paul gilbert talks about this he calls it fear of self-compassion because basically when you're activating the attachment system which is supposed to make you feel safe it actually makes you unsafe and so some people when they start opening their hearts with self-compassion they have memories dramatic memories come up or like just this voice in their head saying you're crap you're worthless or maybe some memories of kind of some sort of abuse”