Harsh self-criticism and self-loathing are not immutable states and can be changed through conscious effort.

“I actively loathed myself and any weakness any mistake any foible any flaw I was I was and and and still at times I'm am so incredibly violently critical in my own head that it is not the treatment I would want to that I would wish on anyone I care about that is not a state you have to accept it is not programming that you have to accept and there are ways to begin to chip away at that and to rewire it and to reformat in the sense certain behaviors that you've experienced for so long many of them our thought patterns self-talk that you've come to believe they're completely unchangeable”