Childhood adaptations that were initially protective can become maladaptive later in life.

“like the bigger and stronger and tougher you are the more that seven year old is not going to hurt which it's again when you say it that way it sounds so stupid but that's because we're now sitting here talking and like like it's a rational thought and not realizing that there's a wounded kid that had to come up with sort of a set of skills to adapt to a situation and those adaptations were actually very positive for the large part they saved you right they prevented you probably from jumping off a balcony when you were seven but they start to become maladaptive”