Andrew Huberman· PhD
what my kid needs in the moment it's more like tell me what happened oh oh she yelled at you and yeah look something I know like I know Mom was I know she had a really stressful day at work and look this isn't your responsibility but you can just know this mom has a really hard time apologizing to her has a really hard time apologizing and actually when people have a hard time apologizing they seem cold and like they don't care they actually usually just feel so ashamed of what they did and the reason I'm telling you that is not because you have to take care of her but just so you know this so wasn't you and anytime something happens with mom that doesn't feel good and you feel like you can't resolve it like you can talk to me and I'm going to get out of roleplay for a sec but I think you can see like I'm not throwing my wife under the bus like at all um but I'm centering what my kid needs what my kid needs going back is they need to process that experience with an adult they feel safe with rather than being aloneness