Real-time video chat or phone calls are more effective for social connection than asynchronous methods.

“I think for the reason that you were just talking about is it faces activate us but you know we're primates that are also really good at language and paying attention to the voice I think it's one of the reasons that like an old school phone conversation no video chat with your friend can be some of the most emotional connective conversations sometimes is better than in person because when we're in person we're pulling out our phones and checking and paying attention to other stuff but but we got to get back towards in real time the other stuff just doesn't have the same psychological oomph”