Peter Attia· MD
added this idea of wanting or desire and felt that it was really distinct like thinking about anticipating willingness to engage and that if you didn't separate it you were missing something about what could be a problem for someone like so that 35 year old or that 39 year old we're talking about I think she's 41 now but yeah no we made it because our kids were I wasn't letting her have kids at 25 but okay good point her kids if you said they were 10 and 12 I made I was just trying to be realistic um the other thing is I I feel like it it comes up in that like the if it's not late reproductive post-menopausal it's like 38 to 41. I don't know why but I hear that a lot those there's sort of time for frames that come up I we can talk about why that one is but that's why I picked it um but she might say to me like you know I'm exhausted I have these kids I have this job but I um agree and I I'm like and I'm always kind of like it's still even to this day surprised to hear but you know I said you get turned on well yeah I mean I feel feels fine I do have an orgasm oh yeah yeah and is that satisfying yeah but I don't want sex you know so they that if you get rid of the idea that desire is separate you miss that right right