Children experiencing painful events need a coherent narrative to process their experiences and avoid 'unformulated experience'.

“and so early on when kids have Painful experiences from witnessing you or something else giving them a coherent narrative is what they need and without that the way I think about it is they have what I call unformulated experience it's just affect an experience that kind of free floats in their body unformulated that tends to later show up as triggers right and kind of other things in adulthood”