Expressing one's true desires can lead to rejection and problems, and honest self-expression does not always result in positive reception.

“I'm certainly familiar with the feeling of um recognizing what I want but being afraid that if I were to express that that it would not um would not be accepted certainly and that certainly can create problems um I'm also familiar with recognizing what I want and stating it very clearly and some people um fortunately respond in well but I think it's fair to say at least based on my experience that when we are really honest with ourselves and with others it doesn't always land well right”