Repeating negative relationship outcomes with different partners is not an uncontrollable compulsion.

“And I will say back, if you tell me seven different stories of relationships with seven pretty different people, several different relationships as they evolved, and the same really bad outcome, I'll agree with you, but you're not going to tell me that. And that's why there's hope. And no one has ever told me seven different stories where I feel like, wow, you just can't do it, right? No. And again, even if there were seven, I'm saying things for exaggeration. But there aren't. What is it? It's the same thing seven times. That's what it is. Because the person is repeating.”