Trauma is often passed down to the next generation in an orthogonal way.

“you learn that trauma almost always comes out in some orthogonal way and so it's not necessarily that the child of the alcoholic becomes the alcoholic in the case of the woman that I was just talking about earlier who when she saw her daughter turns seven triggered all these flashbacks of the sexual abuse I don't think that I think the probability that that mother is gonna go ahead and like sexually abuse her daughter because she was sexually abused by her stepfather the probability that is like close to zero that is not how the shame will be transferred to the next generation it will not be through the same route cause it will come out in something different”