Responsible distance-taking in relationships involves communicating the need for a break, specifying duration, and assuring return.

“So I say to you, when we're not flooded, let's have a contract. I get flooded. We don't like it when I get flooded. I want to take a break. Here's what it looks like. 15, 20 minutes and then I'm back. If I'm not in control, I'll text you or call you and say, "I need another I'll negotiate with you, but I'm not going to leave you. I'm not going to be irresponsible. It's not unilateral and it's not forever. I will be back. What do you need in order to be calm enough to let me go?"”