Andrew Huberman· PhD
What was great about this study was people wrote down at the time here's what here's how I feel. So people who were, let's say, got married and were happy would say almost unilaterally like there was so much chemistry. We had such a good time on the first date. It was amazing. Whereas at the time they might have said like, "Yeah, it was okay. Maybe I'll see this person again. Fine." Like no butterflies or you know, whatever. But that's not the story they're telling themselves about it. Now people who either are unhappily together or no longer together would say, "Yeah, there was nothing there. There was no chemistry. I didn't really like the person." By the time they might have said like, "Wow, I'm really interested in this person. It was like we had so much chemistry." So we change our stories based on our present experience.