A child's ability to understand and manage their emotional life is often not taught, leading to a conflictual relationship with their feelings.

“Most people were not so it becomes this very very complicated conundrum the emotional life is happening inside me again like you can't beat it it's happening our feelings can't get rid of them and they're very powerful they're Sensations but if your framework is was always you're getting punished you're getting ridiculed you're being a baby then you you develop a very conflictual relationship with your feelings like I they can't be real they almost can't be mine that's really they can't be mine”