Radical acceptance is an active, continuous process of choosing acceptance over refusal.

“when you ask questions like that like how can we ask somebody to radically accept this i would answer in part by saying what's the alternative the alternative is refusing to accept how do how does that work how how do you do that — how and how long can you sustain that for so i would actually argue that the refusal to accept or the putting your head in the sand or the denying reality actually ends up taking a lot more mental resource and ultimately causing more problems for you in the long run and that said from a dbt perspective when we when we talk about practicing the skill of radical acceptance we have another expression called turning the mind which is referring to the fact that practicing radical acceptance involves a very active process of continuously turning your mind towards acceptance the the metaphor is that you're at a fork in the road and one road is acceptance and another road is is refusal to accept you're gonna come across the fork in the road possibly multiple times a minute and what does it look like for you to say i'm going to actively and willingly choose the road of radical acceptance how can i turn my mind my body my soul towards acceptance”