Partners with a significant sex drive mismatch can improve their relationship by openly communicating about their emotional states and acknowledging individual drives without faulting the other.

“So they would be able to talk about it in ways that wouldn't be faulting of the other and would acknowledge what's inside of them. Like, the person with the lower drive could say things like, it doesn't strike me as more interesting. I don't think about it more. They could talk about all of that. The person who wishes more or wishes different could talk about that too, right. And could talk about what they feel inside, if there's a frustration of that. Just like the person with the lower sex drive could talk about how frustrating i t feels to feel pressured. Right? So what are they developing? They're mentalizing. They're thinking about each other's emotional states, and they're coming at each other through agency and gratitude.”