Peter Attia· MD
the first step would be to describe the situation without adding on any interpretations or judgments so if i were your daughter you would say to me um olivia i understand that you want to now get a third earring great so often this means exactly what you did which is to keep it short because sometimes we have a tendency to go on and on and on about all of our reasons for something but actually the more we do that the more we lose the other person's interest