Teaching children flexible thinking, emotion management, and self-moderation is crucial for managing life's nuances, especially in high-conflict situations.

“the big message I want to get across with this with all parents and kids is it's a question of skills that the kids aren't growing up with the skills to manage the nuances and so we teach a lot of our skills and we teach parents teach these to your kids in divorce flexible thinking teach them flexible thinking teach them manage emotions teach them um to ma to moderate their behavior teach them to check themselves wait a minute am I doing something here rather than always you you you”