Sharing personal struggles, such as difficulty with a crossword puzzle, with children allows them to see that admired figures also face challenges.

“I think again in these calm moments you have this opportunity to say something like I cannot finish this crossw word puzzle or like I love New York Times games right and it's so fun with my kids now that they're older but my connections was really hard today I just I really struggled with it and I was like oh I can't do it I can't do it and then I took a deep breath and I tried it a little more and you know maybe I said and I did it or or I Didn't Do It Whatever it is and it gives my kid first of all gives my kid an opportunity to just notice that I struggle too”