Andrew Huberman· PhD
When we are set up to have a disagreement, we each declare how important whatever the issue is to us is because we assume, you know, if I'm really passionate about something, I assume when we're arguing that you're equally as passionate. But that's not always true. But if I come at you with my full passion and you're not as passionate, I'm going to make you more passionate. So all of a sudden, we're fighting. So if I want to go out to Chinese food, my wife wants to go out to Mexican food, I might say, for me, Chinese food is an eight because I really have been craving it. She says Mexican food for me is a three today. There's no fight. There's no argument.