A therapist may begin a session by asking what the individual has done that week to improve the relationship or make their partner feel valued, rather than focusing on past conflicts.

“but I like to ask what have you done this week to make things better what a great question what have you done to make your partner feel that they matter rather than what happened this week you know know I I kind of have a sense please do not tell me the last unraveling you know I got it it goes from one from 0 to 60 no time and none of this I I don't need the details of the story I need to know what you're doing to each other what feelings you're instigating in each other I don't need the plot”