Linking current negative behaviors to stated goals can motivate examination of why counterproductive patterns persist.

“I might say, "So, you know, you'd said earlier on a couple of sessions ago that you really want to find a partner. You really want to find a good relationship." So, so that's important to you. You told me that it was. And now you're telling me that, you know, you you keep seeing this person where you know every time you go out the front door that nothing good is going to come of it and you're going to come back feeling worse than than when you left. Like we should look at why.”